01 · Who Lani works with

Lani works with stress, Anxiety, trauma and abuse and anger management

Lani lists 17 specialisms and 36 further focus areas. Specialisms are the subjects Lani chose to list first, which is the closest a listing gets to “this is my actual practice”.

02 · In Lani's own words

What Lani says about the work

Reproduced in full and unedited - not summarised, not tightened, not rewritten in a house voice.

I am a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor. I began my college education, located in a humble community of Laie, Hawaii where I was raised until the age of 21. After leaving my hometown, I completed my remaining undergraduate degree in psychology through distance learning and later earned my Master’s degree in Mental Health Counseling in 2007 from the University of Phoenix. I currently practice via online telehealth only and have done so since the beginning of the COVID pandemic.

My therapy approach is eclectic, meaning I combine different therapeutic approaches based on the presenting concerns and goals that are adapted to the needs of the person via the use of cognitive-behavioral, person-centered, brief therapy and solution-focused therapy with particular attention to the psychoanalytic processes, which emphasizes how life events and relationship experiences both past and present may be affecting your current relationships, issues and/or circumstances. What I can bring to the counseling environment to help you with this is a style that I believe to be approachable and warm so that my patients are able to 1) actively process and explore, 2) find their way, 3) learn about themselves and 4) grow to be directors of their life.

In short, to help you have the most successful experience in counseling it is important to me that we work together in establishing what your needs are and how I can be of most benefit to you. With that comes responsibility for your mental health and dedication of your time to your mental health needs. To be more specific, I ask that you not just do therapy sessions once a week for 30-45 minutes but that also be proactive and committed with working on your mental health needs outside of therapy as well via homework that is completed in a timely manner as opposed to completing it right before your sessions as I need time to look over said homework and cannot do this effectively when it is sent back the day of.

I am genuinely interested in what brings you to therapy and hope that you would feel comfortable working with me as I look forward to working with you.

Lani

Lani Ete, on the BetterHelp listing · read 7 Oct 2026

03 · How Lani works

The 9 approaches Lani lists, in plain English

These are the clinical methods Lani lists. The descriptions are Maker Therapy's, not Lani's - a general explanation of what each method is, so the list means something before you have spoken to anybody. They are not a claim about how Lani runs a session.

Attachment-Based Therapy

Reads present-day relationship difficulty through the lens of how safety and closeness were learned early on. The therapeutic relationship itself is treated as part of the work, because it is where the pattern tends to show up first.

Client-Centred TherapyPerson-centred · Rogerian

The therapist does not steer toward a technique or a diagnosis. They offer sustained, non-judgemental attention and reflect back what they hear, on the premise that people find their own direction when they are genuinely listened to. Often what people mean by “someone who just gets it”.

Cognitive Behavioural TherapyCBT

Structured, present-focused work on the loop between what you think, how you feel and what you then do. Usually means noticing a thought pattern in the room, testing it against evidence, and practising something different between sessions. Among the most heavily researched talking therapies for depression and anxiety.

Dialectical Behaviour TherapyDBT

A structured skills-led adaptation of CBT built around holding two things at once: accepting yourself as you are and working to change. Teaches concrete skills for distress tolerance, emotion regulation and relationships. Developed for people whose feelings arrive at overwhelming intensity, and strongest-evidenced there.

Mindfulness-Based TherapyMBCT

Trains attention on what is happening right now - body, breath, the thought as it arrives - so distress can be observed rather than automatically acted on. Strongest evidence is in preventing depression from recurring, and it is usually taught as a practice you keep doing outside the session.

Psychodynamic Therapy

Works on the assumption that current patterns - in relationships, at work, in how you treat yourself - have a history, and that seeing the history loosens the pattern. Less structured than CBT, usually longer, and more interested in what comes up unbidden than in a weekly agenda.

Solution-Focused Brief TherapySFBT

Starts from where you want to end up rather than from how you got here. Sessions look for the times the problem is already smaller and work out what is different about those, so the number of sessions tends to be short and the work concrete.

Trauma-Focused TherapyTF-CBT · trauma-informed

CBT adapted for people whose difficulty is rooted in a frightening or overwhelming event. Pacing is the point: safety and stabilisation come first, the memory itself is approached gradually and only when you are ready, and the aim is that recalling it stops hijacking the present.

Internal Family SystemsIFS

Treats the mind as made up of parts - the critic, the one who withdraws, the one that keeps everything running - each of which is trying to protect you. The work is getting to know them rather than overruling them.

Also listed

• Existential Therapy

04 · What happens next

From this page to a first session

Lani practises through BetterHelp, so the route in is BetterHelp's. This is that sequence, written by Maker Therapy from the platform's published process - not a description of Lani's own practice, and not a promise about how quickly anything happens.

1. A questionnaire, not a booking form

   BetterHelp opens with a set of questions about what you are dealing with, what you want from therapy, and any preferences on the therapist. You are not booking Lani at this point.

2. Naming Lani specifically

   BetterHelp matches algorithmically by default, so asking for Lani is a step you have to take. There is a field for requesting a specific therapist during sign-up, and you can switch afterwards from your account. Starting from a link on this page does not by itself assign you to Lani.

3. If the caseload is full

   You will be offered somebody else rather than put on a waitlist. Worth knowing, because it is easy to assume a match is the person you asked for.

4. The first conversation

   A first session is typically history and orientation: what brought you, what has been tried, what you want to be different. It is also where the questions in the next section belong.

5. If the fit is wrong

   Changing therapist on BetterHelp does not need a reason. A first session that does not click is common and is not a verdict on therapy. That option existing is the main practical difference between a platform and a private practice.

05 · Before you commit

4 questions worth asking Lani

Built from what Lani actually lists, so they are answerable and specific rather than generic. Maker Therapy's, not Lani's - Lani has not seen them and is under no obligation to answer any of them.

• “You list both Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Attachment-Based Therapy. Which do you lean on with someone like me?”

  Those two point in different directions - one structured and led by the therapist, the other led by you. The answer tells you what the sessions will actually feel like.

• “How do you decide when someone is ready to work on a traumatic memory itself?”

  Pacing is the biggest safety question in trauma work. A clear, unhurried answer here matters more than any credential.

• “With 18 years in, what has changed most in how you work?”

  Long experience is only an advantage if it has been examined. This tends to surface whether it has.

• “How do you handle the gap between sessions if something comes up?”

  On BetterHelp this varies a great deal by therapist. Better to know the rhythm now than to discover it on a bad week.

06 · Practical details

Credentials and licensing

Credential

LCMHC

Licensed in

Utah

Licence

UT LCMHC 6831497-6004

Licence number

6831497-6004

Licence expires

30 Sep 2028

NPI

1255518080

Years in practice

18

Gender

Female

Languages

English

International clients

Accepted

Listed since

15 May 2026

07 · Provenance

Where every line on this page came from

Lani's name, credential, state, subjects, approaches and biography are read from BetterHelp's therapist roster, which Maker Therapy re-reads once a day; this page reflects the reading taken on 7 Oct 2026. The licence number and NPI are cross-checked against public registers.

The plain-English method descriptions, the first-session walkthrough and the questions are written by Maker Therapy and labelled as such wherever they appear.

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